Wednesday, March 01, 2006
Marriage???
Recently I met a friend for lunch..have not seen n hear from him for quite sometimes.
He has gone thru the 2nd stage of life...but he does have gf. No doubt he is not the type that "just come out n play" cos he always feel sad n hurt when the relationship ended.
His 2nd stage of life isn't quite satisfied that's y he has been searching around. I use to wonder y does he involve in the 2nd stage since he is not so satisfied about it...maybe times n situation really change a person.
Previously I quite disagree what he does but in this recent meet I can c his problem clearly and understand y he have the urge of searching.
Marriage...it happens between 2 person in love who wanna to share the rest of their life together, is also a way to tell ur loves one that u commit the rest of ur life with him/her..sharing each other happiness, sadness, upset...n etc.
I used to think that marriage is equivalent to happiness, joyful, lovely n many good words that can't describe.
In this recent years there are a lot of ppls include some of my friends r suffering from this. Y is that so? From what I see from friends there are several possibility.
1. They dun get satisfaction on some needs.
2. Some ppl changed after got married, they think that after getting married you don't have to be romantic, surprise, exciting n etc like what you use to enjoy before getting married.
3. Some ppl wan to find some new excitement but this type of ppl normally juz seek for fun and no real feeling involved.
4. Some couple is apart from each other due to working in overseas....they might fall in love to others...cos when they need their wife/husband they r not there.
There are many more...but this is what I can c from ppl around me.
My tis friend is actually having No. 2 reason. That's y i quite pity him and understand y he is still searching.
To actually maintain your marriage life,both have to continue putting more effort to maintain/create the excitement and not putting it aside. Some feel that after getting married you dun need all that but in fact that is the crucial one. Some ppl dun c the importance of it...that's y your love one might gone out searching...and the possibility to get divorce is 99%.
No matter what, if this happen to me I will first discuss the problem with my hubby and give times for each other to change....but when it can't be tolerate anymore...being apart is the best solution rather than maintain with him and search for a new one. I only believe one to one and not one to two...
To ppl who "Come out N Play" but still wan to maintain ur family pls do double protection to prevent accident happen.
P/S...to K....if you wud ever c this, I think you shud talk to ur wife about what u feel...rather than u maintain ur current situation.!! Good luck..
He has gone thru the 2nd stage of life...but he does have gf. No doubt he is not the type that "just come out n play" cos he always feel sad n hurt when the relationship ended.
His 2nd stage of life isn't quite satisfied that's y he has been searching around. I use to wonder y does he involve in the 2nd stage since he is not so satisfied about it...maybe times n situation really change a person.
Previously I quite disagree what he does but in this recent meet I can c his problem clearly and understand y he have the urge of searching.
Marriage...it happens between 2 person in love who wanna to share the rest of their life together, is also a way to tell ur loves one that u commit the rest of ur life with him/her..sharing each other happiness, sadness, upset...n etc.
I used to think that marriage is equivalent to happiness, joyful, lovely n many good words that can't describe.
In this recent years there are a lot of ppls include some of my friends r suffering from this. Y is that so? From what I see from friends there are several possibility.
1. They dun get satisfaction on some needs.
2. Some ppl changed after got married, they think that after getting married you don't have to be romantic, surprise, exciting n etc like what you use to enjoy before getting married.
3. Some ppl wan to find some new excitement but this type of ppl normally juz seek for fun and no real feeling involved.
4. Some couple is apart from each other due to working in overseas....they might fall in love to others...cos when they need their wife/husband they r not there.
There are many more...but this is what I can c from ppl around me.
My tis friend is actually having No. 2 reason. That's y i quite pity him and understand y he is still searching.
To actually maintain your marriage life,both have to continue putting more effort to maintain/create the excitement and not putting it aside. Some feel that after getting married you dun need all that but in fact that is the crucial one. Some ppl dun c the importance of it...that's y your love one might gone out searching...and the possibility to get divorce is 99%.
No matter what, if this happen to me I will first discuss the problem with my hubby and give times for each other to change....but when it can't be tolerate anymore...being apart is the best solution rather than maintain with him and search for a new one. I only believe one to one and not one to two...
To ppl who "Come out N Play" but still wan to maintain ur family pls do double protection to prevent accident happen.
P/S...to K....if you wud ever c this, I think you shud talk to ur wife about what u feel...rather than u maintain ur current situation.!! Good luck..
# posted by Little Devil76 : 4:16 PM
